As a husband I look at this verse and agree, at first, that I should love my wife. No problem understanding that. And I should love her as I would love the Lord, though my love for Him should be greater. But I recognize that the Lord told us to love God with all our hearts, souls, and strength. Okay, I got that and certainly have tried to live up to those goals in the way I love my wife. But...
What does Paul say about how Christ loves His Church, His Bride? He loved her by giving "up His life for her". And that didn't just mean His death. I'm sure I would be willing to die for my wife if need be. Most husbands would. We all know the verse, "There is no greater love than to lay down one's life for one's friends." John 15:13 NLT. But Paul is saying something beyond our sacrifice of our bodies for our wives. If we really love our wives we would "give up our life for her." Do you see what I see?
It's not a matter of how I die, it's a matter of how I live! Am I willing to love my wife enough to give up living my life for myself? My ambitions? My dreams? Would I live so that my life would be lived more for her benefit than for mine? You see, Christ lived the most selfless life anyone could live! See Romans 15:3 NLT, "For even Christ didn't live to please Himself." As a husband, do I live for the benefit of the one I love? Oh, there's so much more to say about this than I can say now. Suffice it to say to other husbands, are you living for your wife or just living with her? Think about that.